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Move Beyond Damaging Myths – Sex is Supposed to Happen Spontaneously

Move Beyond Damaging Myths – Sex is Supposed to Happen Spontaneously

nedelja, 18. oktober 2015/Kategorije: Pari, Sex Therapy and Relationship Coaching/Število ogledov (9504)

Move Beyond Damaging Myths

Before learning tools to enhance your sexual connection, you must first understand why sex can be such a challenging and contentious area in your relationship. There are so many confusing social messages and harmful myths about how sex is supposed to be and how men and women are supposed to behave sexually. Because these messages are presented to you from very early on, they become a part of you, like the air you breathe. Most people never question the validity of these messages and don’t realize how harmful they can be. We invite you to question them and see how they cause misunderstanding, anger, fear, and sadness and how they disrupt your connection with your partner. Once you gain some freedom and distance from these messages, you can begin to approach sex with much more realistic attitudes and expectations, empathize with your partner, and better communicate your sexual needs and desires.

Damaging Myth #1: Sex is supposed to happen spontaneously.

People often get upset at the idea that they might need to plan sex. They remember when they started dating and sex “just happened.” However, dating is essentially planning sex or erotic connection. By planning a date, you are taking special time out to focus on the connection between the two of you. You dress up, fantasize about meeting each other, prepare, and get excited. This isn’t spontaneous sex; it’s anticipated sex.

Once you have joined your life with someone else’s, time together has many purposes. You might spend time together where you are each doing your own separate work, or you might need to talk about money, kids, and all the day-to-day logistics of life. Most couples stop carving out time together where the focus is on building and enhancing sexual and emotional connection. When you live in a culture where there is a high level of shame surrounding sex, soon one or both of you will likely move sex to the bottom of your list of priorities. Just as you’ve made a commitment to each other, if you want your sex life to last, you need to make a commitment to consciously cultivate your sexual connection the same way you did when you were dating.



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  • JANA Vesna je čudovita psihoterapevtka. Ogromno strokovnega znanja, predvsem pa njena toplina, potrpežljivost, pozitivnost in usmerjenost v prihodnost so njenje lastnosti, ki mi pomagajo, da lažje premagujem svoje strahove in rastem. Res sem ji hvaležna za vsak njen nasvet, vzpodbudo ali pa samo 'Vse bo vredu'.
  • MAJA Počutim se kot, da hodim po oblakih. Kot, da sem izdihnila dolg in globok vdih in z njim odplavila vsa leta blokad in frustracij okoli moje seksualnosti. Sedaj se spet spomnim kako je, ko se počutiš živo in kar ne morem dočakati, da se spet začnem spogledovati s celim svetom, ki čaka name, kot si mi rekla.
  • JERNEJ Veliko let se je obrnilo, Vesna, tebe bi morali klicato vratar, ker vsakič, ko sem potreboval nekaj za kar sem mislil, da ne bom nikoli dobil, si mi odprla vrata. Sedaj lahko vidim svet poln odprtih vrat, namesto zaprtih. Hvala ti.
  • ALENKA Varen prostor, ki si ga ustvarila mi je pomagal, da sem prišla v stik s tistim delom sebe, ki sem si ga do sedaj neskončno bala raziskati.
  • ANDREJ Težko opišem z besedami kakšno zadovoljstvo sem občutil, ko je moji partnerki prišlo dvakrat prej kot meni in da sem se lahko ljubil z njo celih 40 minut, kar prej sploh ni bilo možno ker nisem nikakor zmogel kontrolirati izliva.

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